Self-Care for Millennial Women Newsletter

The Sursie

Self-care for the long haul: how to build a life and legacy that are your own, pass on material AND emotional assets, and break cycles that have been going on for generations.

Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge: Week Four

Welcome to the final week of the Tough Love Passive Aggression Challenge! You’ve already done the hard work of recognizing and eliminating passive aggression from your own communication. Now, you’re facing a whole new challenge: handling it when it’s coming at you. And make no mistake—it will com...

May 29, 2025 tlpac

Cut it out.

Do less. No, less. OK, good! Now do less than that. Seriously, self-care is very important. Some (me) might (do) say it’s literally life and death. So taking that into account, try to be strategic. What do you want? I can guarantee that unless you’ve really pared down what you’re doing,...

May 26, 2025

Tough Love Passive-Aggressive Challenge: Week Three

Hey friend, We’re in a moment that feels like it’s stretching time thin. So many people I know—maybe you too—are whispering the same question into their coffee mugs: What the hell is going on? And more urgently: What am I supposed to do about it? In the latest conversation (which is about collaps...

May 22, 2025 tlpac

Your hobbies ain't a side-hustle.

A hobby is a lifeline. Not a “self-improvement” hack.Not a side hustle in disguise.Not something you turn into a content pillar or write off as “personal brand building.” I mean a real hobby.A useless, joyful, unnecessary, unoptimized activity you do just because it makes you feel like a person...

May 18, 2025

Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge: Week Two

Hey friend, Let’s talk about the version of you that learned to stay quiet to stay safe. The one who drops hints instead of making requests.Who crafts a perfectly neutral “Sure, no problem :)” while your stomach churns.Who gets icy instead of angry—because that was the safer move. That’s what Wee...

May 15, 2025 tlpac

Stop Borrowing Other People's Emergencies

Do you grab a fire extinguisher, pull the pin, and aim in the general direction of the chaos whenever you hear a fire alarm? Chances are, you don’t. Chances are, your instinct—and what you’ve practiced since elementary school—is to get into groups at a safe distance, survey the situation, ac...

May 11, 2025

Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge: Week One

This week, we kick off the Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge by diving into:🔎 What exactly passive-aggression is🧠 Where it comes from📖 How it was once even labeled a personality disorder (seriously) All you need to do this week? 🎧 Watch (or listen to!) this 13-minute video below 💡 Hot tip: ...

May 08, 2025 communication passive-aggression relationships tlpac video videos

You Don't Have to Move to France

Hey you. 👋 You don’t have to live in France to get your life back.(But we’ll circle back to France, promise. 🇫🇷) Here’s the truth:⚡ The idea of "work/life balance" is recent.⚡ The modern workweek? Engineered for someone else’s success, not yours.⚡ The pressure you're feeling? A trap. And traps ca...

May 04, 2025

May 2025 Forecast

Every year, I perform tarot forecasts for myself, the general vibe of the West, and individuals who want 'em. Formerly I would use the general forecast to keep my finger on the pulse of the energetic zeitgeist, but it occurs to me that you could probably use some month-by-month help, astrologica...

May 01, 2025 forecast magic tarot

The Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge

The Accountability You Didn’t Know You Needed The Tough Love Self-Care Challenge has helped hundreds jumpstart deep, lasting self-care using what they have, right where they are. 🌱 And now? I’m thrilled to bring you one of its spiciest spin-offs:🎯 The Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge. This...

Apr 30, 2025 communication legacy passive-aggression relationships tlpac

Wheel of the Year - Beltane

Dear friend, We’re halfway between Spring Equinox and Summer Solstice, and that means it’s Beltane—the high holiday of fire, fertility, flowers, and flirting. To be honest, this is my favorite celebration of the entire year. Because my birthday is April 29, and this Sabbat always feels a little l...

Apr 28, 2025 entertaining spirituality wheel of the year

Self-Care as Resistance

When I think about God, I think about triangles. 🔺 Equilateral triangles, to be specific—each angle dependent on the other two. Which is to say:👉 The way we relate to ourselves👉 The way we relate to each other👉 The way we relate to something bigger…are all deeply connected. 👋 New here? I refer to...

Apr 27, 2025

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The Sursie

Self-care for the long haul: how to build a life and legacy that are your own, pass on material AND emotional assets, and break cycles that have been going on for generations.