Self-Care for Millennial Women Newsletter

The Sursie

Self-care for the long haul: how to build a life and legacy that are your own, pass on material AND emotional assets, and break cycles that have been going on for generations.

And frankly, it ain't love. Walking is gonna save all our lives if we let it. Listen, you don’t have to take my word for, just like we never had to take Levar Burton’s. But if you’ll recall, he was always fucking right, and so I am when I say: I’ve done the reading, I’ve done the research, I...

Jul 13, 2025

I went on ONE DATE with him in 2008:

Making the Case for an Analog Address Book This morning, my servant robot (Alexa) reminded me that it was someone’s birthday, let’s call him Andrew Smart. “Wish Andrew Smart a happy birthday,” Alexa chided. I went out with one (1) date with Andrew Smart in 2008. We met at a dog park. He ha...

Jul 06, 2025

July 2025 Forecast

Every year, I perform tarot forecasts for myself, the general vibe of the West, and individuals who want 'em. Formerly I would use the general forecast to keep my finger on the pulse of the energetic zeitgeist, but it occurs to me that you could probably use some month-by-month help, astrologica...

Jul 01, 2025 forecast magic tarot

Fried Chicken, Near-Death Experiences, etc. etc.

If you refuse to be held hostage for a chicken recipe then by God you just skip your sweet fanny right to the end and let’s not waste another second of your sweet time 😜 Everybody else settle in for a lil story. On June 29, 2016, two months after I turned 30, a car crash occurred that set an...

Jun 29, 2025

Make and Keep Appointments

I started the Tough Love Self-Care Challenge in late 2017, and one of the precipitating factors was learning the following piece of information: Research indicates that women, particularly mothers, are more likely to schedule and attend medical and dental appointments for their children and spo...

Jun 09, 2025

What is left behind?

When we think of inheritance, we don’t often think about the soft stuff. Inheritance is generally hard. It’s quantifiable. Like money or assets or property, a recognizable name or exclusive membership, legacy businesses. Genes. Gold. Guns. The things you plan to leave for the next generatio...

Jun 01, 2025

June 2025 Forecast

Jun 01, 2025 forecast magic tarot

Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge: Week Four

Welcome to the final week of the Tough Love Passive Aggression Challenge! You’ve already done the hard work of recognizing and eliminating passive aggression from your own communication. Now, you’re facing a whole new challenge: handling it when it’s coming at you. And make no mistake—it will com...

May 29, 2025 tlpac

Cut it out.

Do less. No, less. OK, good! Now do less than that. Seriously, self-care is very important. Some (me) might (do) say it’s literally life and death. So taking that into account, try to be strategic. What do you want? I can guarantee that unless you’ve really pared down what you’re doing,...

May 26, 2025

Tough Love Passive-Aggressive Challenge: Week Three

Hey friend, We’re in a moment that feels like it’s stretching time thin. So many people I know—maybe you too—are whispering the same question into their coffee mugs: What the hell is going on? And more urgently: What am I supposed to do about it? In the latest conversation (which is about collaps...

May 22, 2025 tlpac

Your hobbies ain't a side-hustle.

A hobby is a lifeline. Not a “self-improvement” hack.Not a side hustle in disguise.Not something you turn into a content pillar or write off as “personal brand building.” I mean a real hobby.A useless, joyful, unnecessary, unoptimized activity you do just because it makes you feel like a person...

May 18, 2025

Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge: Week Two

Hey friend, Let’s talk about the version of you that learned to stay quiet to stay safe. The one who drops hints instead of making requests.Who crafts a perfectly neutral “Sure, no problem :)” while your stomach churns.Who gets icy instead of angry—because that was the safer move. That’s what Wee...

May 15, 2025 tlpac

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The Sursie

Self-care for the long haul: how to build a life and legacy that are your own, pass on material AND emotional assets, and break cycles that have been going on for generations.