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Self-care for the long haul: how to build a life and legacy that are your own, pass on material AND emotional assets, and break cycles that have been going on for generations.
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I started the Tough Love Self-Care Challenge in late 2017, and one of the precipitating factors was learning the following piece of information:   Research indicates that women, particularly mothers, are more likely to schedule and attend medical and dental appointments for their children and spo...
Jun 09, 2025
What is left behind?
When we think of inheritance, we don’t often think about the soft stuff.    Inheritance is generally hard. It’s quantifiable. Like money or assets or property, a recognizable name or exclusive membership, legacy businesses. Genes. Gold. Guns.    The things you plan to leave for the next generatio...
Jun 01, 2025
June 2025 Forecast
Every year, I perform tarot forecasts for myself, the general vibe of the West, and individuals who want 'em.  Formerly I would use the general forecast to keep my finger on the pulse of the energetic zeitgeist, but it occurs to me that you could probably use some month-by-month help, astrologica...
Jun 01, 2025 forecast magic tarot
Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge: Week Four
Welcome to the final week of the Tough Love Passive Aggression Challenge! You’ve already done the hard work of recognizing and eliminating passive aggression from your own communication. Now, you’re facing a whole new challenge: handling it when it’s coming at you. And make no mistake—it will com...
May 29, 2025 tlpac
Cut it out.
Do less.  No, less.  OK, good! Now do less than that.    Seriously, self-care is very important. Some (me) might (do) say it’s literally life and death. So taking that into account, try to be strategic.    What do you want?   I can guarantee that unless you’ve really pared down what you’re doing,...
May 26, 2025
Tough Love Passive-Aggressive Challenge: Week Three
Hey friend, We’re in a moment that feels like it’s stretching time thin. So many people I know—maybe you too—are whispering the same question into their coffee mugs: What the hell is going on? And more urgently: What am I supposed to do about it? In the latest conversation (which is about collaps...
May 22, 2025 tlpac
Your hobbies ain't a side-hustle.
  A hobby is a lifeline. Not a “self-improvement” hack.Not a side hustle in disguise.Not something you turn into a content pillar or write off as “personal brand building.” I mean a real hobby.A useless, joyful, unnecessary, unoptimized activity you do just because it makes you feel like a person...
May 18, 2025
Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge: Week Two
Hey friend, Let’s talk about the version of you that learned to stay quiet to stay safe. The one who drops hints instead of making requests.Who crafts a perfectly neutral “Sure, no problem :)” while your stomach churns.Who gets icy instead of angry—because that was the safer move. That’s what Wee...
May 15, 2025 tlpac
Stop Borrowing Other People's Emergencies
Do you grab a fire extinguisher, pull the pin, and aim in the general direction of the chaos whenever you hear a fire alarm?   Chances are, you don’t.    Chances are, your instinct—and what you’ve practiced since elementary school—is to get into groups at a safe distance, survey the situation, ac...
May 11, 2025
Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge: Week One
This week, we kick off the Tough Love Passive-Aggression Challenge by diving into:🔎 What exactly passive-aggression is🧠 Where it comes from📖 How it was once even labeled a personality disorder (seriously) All you need to do this week? 🎧 Watch (or listen to!) this 13-minute video below 💡 Hot tip: ...
May 08, 2025 communication passive-aggression relationships tlpac video videos
You Don't Have to Move to France
Hey you. 👋 You don’t have to live in France to get your life back.(But we’ll circle back to France, promise. 🇫🇷) Here’s the truth:⚡ The idea of "work/life balance" is recent.⚡ The modern workweek? Engineered for someone else’s success, not yours.⚡ The pressure you're feeling? A trap. And traps ca...
May 04, 2025
May 2025 Forecast
Every year, I perform tarot forecasts for myself, the general vibe of the West, and individuals who want 'em.  Formerly I would use the general forecast to keep my finger on the pulse of the energetic zeitgeist, but it occurs to me that you could probably use some month-by-month help, astrologica...
May 01, 2025 forecast magic tarot

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Self-care for the long haul: how to build a life and legacy that are your own, pass on material AND emotional assets, and break cycles that have been going on for generations.
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